![]() Trystan, a 34-year-old trans man, would carry the couple's first biological child. Recently, Trystan and Biff began to discuss the idea of expanding their family. The kids call Trystan “Daddy” and Biff “Dada.” Their day-to-day lives are, for the most part, textbook ordinary - school, work, playdates, grocery-store run, repeat. That was a surprise that people were so blown away - so positively and so negatively."įor the past four years, Trystan Reese has lived in Portland, Oregon, with his husband, Biff Chaplow and their two adopted children (Chaplow's biological niece and nephew). For most people in this world, they don't live in the sphere of reality where transgender men have babies. "But we forgot, truly, how divided this country is and how many spheres of reality there are. "It's not a special story," Reese laughs, recalling how many transgender fathers he knows. The experience sparked a lot of questions from the general public, but Reese and Chaplow point out that their journey isn't unheard of. In 2017, they opened a new chapter in their story when Reese became pregnant and gave birth to their son, Leo. The duo decided to share their lives as queer parents online via their website, Biff and I, and their Instagram. Their unlikely path in parenthood was just beginning, however. ![]() Their story rippled across the internet by way of the popular parenting podcast The Longest Shortest Time. Riley was 3 years old and Hailey was 1 year old at the time - they are now 10 and 7 - and once the papers were signed, Chaplow and Reese famously became " accidental gay parents." While this call to parenting may sound atypical in how unpredictable it was, that's because it truly was: Chaplow and Reese - a cisgender gay man and transgender gay man, respectively - had only been dating for a year before they adopted Chaplow's sister's children to protect them from entering the foster system. "Is this the right path for us? Am I going to be happy on this path? I kept expecting people to say, 'What? You can't be parents!' And all we got was support." "It's similar in that there's a lot of self-doubt," he says. "You get to a point, usually long after it happens, where you realize, 'I am a parent.'" "It's a slow process - and you kind of know it's coming," Chaplow explains to POPSUGAR. Trystan weighed himself "obsessively" and kept taking repeated pregnancy tests.For Biff Chaplow and Trystan Reese, becoming parents was a lot like coming out. Speaking to the the WNYC podcast, the Longest Shortest Time, Biff said both of them had been very "cautious" in the early stages of the pregnancy. "So if you can start to understand that, then it starts to make more sense that it would not seem totally bizarre for me to want to create and carry a baby." "I feel like my body is awesome, I feel like it’s a gift to have been born with the body that I did. "I never felt like I needed to change my body. "For me, just transitioning normally - taking testosterone so that I have a beard and my voice is deep as its ever gonna get - and appear like a man… that’s enough for me. ![]() He said that some people think "trans people were born into the wrong bodies, and we really hate our bodies, and that’s why we need to transition." In a post on their website, Trystan said that he felt some people are interested to know why he wanted to become pregnant as a transgender person, but were too afraid to ask.
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